For the first time in my life ever, I had to call 911 to remove information from someone who was harassing me. I’m writing this entry because this is the 2nd time in my life that someone has willfully went out of their way to intentionally harm me (the first was someone trying to call me the n-word). I won’t tolerate bullies and this has gone overboard. It should have just ended at the text messages but it escalated to my number being posted online for a group with over 300+ people and I had to call the cops. The text exchange was so ridiculous over something that was supposed to be simple. However, you can’t argue with immature people and I constantly fall into the trap. That’s my downfall and I’m owning it.
I’ll be honest, I did care about the future interactions that I would have had with this person that’s why I kept texting initially but I realized later that we don’t have friendships in the future.
I unfollowed this person that I met last year. He’s a great runner and I admired (still do) his ability to push himself to be a strong athlete. However, last month he happened to be one of the people that I decided to unfollow because of social network redundancy (followed him on Instagram and Facebook so I kept him on Facebook). It was easier to keep him on Facebook because I can filter his content where I’ll see them only if I cared to.
In all honesty, I was just not interested in his posts anymore because I started to follow people who were inspirational or who were artists and his was predictable. He also didn’t really engage with any of my posts so why care about having that ecosystem. He also had this elitist view of running and immaturity about how others lived their life that I found quite exhausting.
So, I weeded him out (I’ve been weeding out negativity as I approach 30). However, he had my number and I could most certainly see him at running events. As soon as I unfollowed him, he texted me.
Now, this has happened before earlier in the year when I unfollowed him and a few of his friends. They all use a tracking app to see who followed and unfollowed them. They all commented about me unfollowing them. All this is bizarre to me, and not to mention absolutely narcissistic, and a waste of time. If you’re not engaging with your 1,000+ people that you’re following, why would you care if one unfollows you? However, I followed again when they spoke to me. It’s true I didn’t know them all well yet and it was possible that I was making a rash decision from first impression. Which, I agree often isn’t the best way to make friends but I didn’t know these people. I’m used to a small circle and meeting more and more folks was again, abit exhausting since I know you can’t get along with every personality within a group. Months later, all my epiphany pointed to a few of them not being people I’d be best friends with but simply acquaintances.
As soon as I unfollowed him, he sent me a text: “You unfollowed me again !? Smh #okbye” followed by a night of stress.
Anyway, calling 911. How did that happen?
I started posting hi res photos for everyone’s use that I take from running events. I decided not to place a watermark on it just in case they wanted to print it. Sure, I could do what marathon photo does and charge everyone per pic but I thought since I get to practice and people get free photos it’ll be a win-win. All I asked was, if the photos were reposted anywhere that they credit my Instagram, Twitter or domain (jerlynthomas.com).
People get good, edited, hi res photos which they can print, alter etc… and me, the artist, gets free advertising of her craft/hobby. I think that’s absolutely fair.
I decided not to mention his name on here because I’ll be doing exactly what he did to me. However, I’ll keep the screenshot with his name on it. It’ll also look super petty.
He reposted the pic with no credit but I would not have known about it either if he hadn’t tagged it with the running group’s hashtag (which shows up in the feed). I knew only one person who reposted it prior and I was tagged so I was curious about who else had. It was him, the guy I unfollowed. So, I commented “🙂 please repost with credit, Thank you.” He responded with a snooty comment, “@jerlynthomas i can’t tag people on instagram thats not following me.” Right.
If you’re following people on instagram, that’s how their handles show up, not the other way around. He knows exactly how my name spells so it shouldn’t take that long. Anyway, instead of writing that on his photo, I texted him. I don’t like airing out dirty laundry for public consumption and I’ve avoided it until now.
“I’m not trying to start shit with you today.” I messaged. “I’m over it but i explicitedly said you have to give credit if the hi res is reposted. We aren’t friends, I owe you nothing and I’ll just contact IG if you can’t follow instructions.“
I had went through exchanges of messages prior to this situation and he had kept me up and it went nowhere. Arguing with him is annoying and he’s so immature that I just can’t. He doesn’t reason with anyone and he involves lots of people to fight his battles.
Weeks prior, he had spent hours harassing me because of the unfollowing that I didn’t want a redo… Which unfortunately happened again last night. Instead, he chose to be rude and immature (something that majority of the people know about him). I’m still angry that these messages spanned from 7:50PM while I was at the swimming pool until 3AM the following morning.
I went on to explained that I edited it, posted it and it doesn’t matter if you’re in the center.